We're often asked about the adoption timeline. Here you can read step-by-step account of our adoption path through domestic infant adoption.
Following our 6th miscarriage in October 2015, we spent time in fervent prayer, and in January 2016, we selected Bethany to be our agency.
Why did we choose Bethany?
We loved their commitment to ministering to the birth family's physical and emotional, and most of all, spiritual needs. Less than half of Bethany's placements are of Caucasian babies. In other words, it's was quite possible that we could have had a transracial adoption. We feel that transracial adoption is a beautiful testimony to the Word of God's assertion that we are all made in His image. The chance that our family could be a ministry in that way was exciting, and someday, we may travel down that road. We also loved Bethany's commitment to help women of all backgrounds in crisis pregnancies choose life. They goal was not adoption-centered, but centered on being Christ-like. Bethany comes along side these women to provide whatever resources they need in order to sustain their pregnancies - provide healthcare, transportation, safe housing, spiritual and emotional counseling, maternity clothes, and support to make healthy decisions in the best interest of the babies they are carrying. To us, this is what it means to be pro-life.
-January 7, 2016 - Submitted Preliminary Application (plus fee of $100.00)
-February 12, 2016 - Submitted Formal Application (fee of $550.00)
-February 24, 2016 - Formal Application Approved! Clearance to begin Home Study!
-February 26, 2016 - Orientation Meeting , first required meeting of many!
-February - March 2016 - Started the Home Study process... This includes 30 pages of questions (yes, you read that right... 15 pages on Briana and 15 on Jake about our childhood, marriage, physical and mental health, our jobs, lives, you name it...) plus, medical exams, criminal background checks, TB tests, financial and tax documents, marriage and birth certificates, and 4-8 home visits from the social worker in our area... and a fee of $4,000.00. This time period also includes infant care classes, required readings, and an online assessment called Prepare-Enrich.
-April 11, 2016 - Infant Care class complete, contract for services submitted, finished doctor's appointments and form, and all home study paperwork complete and submitted. Whew!
-April 15, 2016 - Prepare-Enrich Assessment complete.
-April 23, 2016 - HUGE Yard Sale Fundraiser! Thanks to EVERYONE who supported us in this adventure. We raised $3,130!
-May 2016 - We're continuing our Quilt Raffle (see events), and we're currently working through the interview meetings with our social worker. We just finished the creation of a family profile book for birthfamilies (check it out at share.shutterfly.com/action/welcome?sid=0MaN3Llk3aPag). Once the home study is complete, the waiting to be matched/picked begins...
-June 2016 - April 2017 - THE LONGEST MOST AGONIZING WAIT... We had three "close calls" in which we were approached about a baby, but we were not matched in any of those situations.
-May 2017 - MATCHED! Baby Girl Wilson due July 1! (see blog post)
-June 2017 - Nursery prep, baby showers, and meeting our daughter's birthfamily
-June 20, 2017 - Mira was born! Once we were matched and had a placement, we owed the remaining balance of the Placement Fee ($14,950.00) and the Post Placement Report Fee which is $1,200.00. We were required to have 3 follow-up visits afterwards.
-November 26, 2017 - Mira passed away.
-January 2018 - We had planned to adopt again, even before Mira died. We are beginning the process of becoming a waiting family again, in obedience with our call to love the children God gives us. Just as we did with Mira, we will be open to whatever child the Lord blesses us with.
We are often asked, "Why sooo much money?"
We can't over emphasize the importance of understanding adoption costs.
Bethany is a service, so Bethany must charge fees to adoptive families to help with operating costs and to ensure services to birthparents. Adoption fees cover expenses like extensive birthparent counseling, medical care, housing, transportation, interim foster care, legal assistance in regard to adoption planning, office support services and the salaries of educated, professional employees. It IS a lot. But doing the King's business takes a lot. That's why we have the Church to take care of one another. That's one of the reasons we believe everyone who is a child of God is called in some way to support adoption.